FOUND A SOLUTION!!!!

Hi all,
thanks for hanging in there all these years. So here is what I found:

there is a company, i found them on ebay, called Factory Radios, http://myworld.ebay.com/factoryradios/?_trksid=p4340.l2559 and they will take your current Car Radio and hardwire a chip/cable i nthere, that works as an AUX port.

I sent them my radio and works perfectly. So when I plug the ipod, it starts playing music, with no buzz or anything like that

So look them up and good luck. It has been a couple of months since i have done it and still works perfectly